Q&A All About Being A Man with Kirk Giles

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During this Q&A session, Kirk Giles answered some tough questions from men. Here are the questions that were asked along with the timestamps where you’ll find Kirk’s answers within the 1-hour Live event.

You can read the full transcript below.

How Do I Find Hope When I Am Losing Hope?

“I got into a bad car accident during my teens that left me in a wheelchair ever since. I had some meaningful relationships, but none of them ended in marriage. Now I’m 36 and I’m losing hope that God will ever even offer me a partner to spend my life with. They say that God does everything for a reason, but I’m losing faith.” 10:38

Why Should I Stay In a Sexless Marriage?

“I have no sexual desire for my wife, and I don’t want to have sexual relations with her anymore. Why does God make me stay in a marriage like this?” 16:55

Should I Stay Sexually Moral?

“I want to be sexually moral. I am single, and I have turned to pornography in the past, but I’m happy to say that I’m walking in victory and have been for some time. In my effort to stay sexually moral, I have ceased all masturbation because I felt that was conjuring up pornographic images in my mind, even though my eyes are closed, and I’m not watching pornography. It is very difficult, as the temptation is very strong some days. Am I on the right track, or should I cut myself some slack and give in every once in a while?”  24:53

What Do I Do When I’m Struggling With My Sexuality?

“Hi there. I have a serious question to ask, and I am asking this question not because I think you’re knowledgeable about the topic, but because I’m curious to see what you have to say. I am a gay male, aged 35, who watches porn several times a week, even before and after going to church. I have strong homosexual tendencies and frequently masturbate. If I go to a Promise Keepers conference sometimes, I notice how gorgeous or handsome some guys are, wish the hot or handsome guy I’m looking at is gay, and my imagination runs wild. How much of a man do you think I can be? Even though I’m aged 35, at times I feel like I am a young guy with a 20–year–old mindset, who happens to be in a 35–year–old body. What valuable input might you have for all of this?” 28:55

How Can I Be An Influence to Younger Men?

“Are there words of encouragement you would give to be of love and encouragement to those around us, and of being a light to the future generation?” 36:30

What Do I Do When I Disagree with My Spouse?

“How do I balance my wife’s request versus what I think would be best? So, for example, purchases, big and small, behaviours and attitudes towards others, friends and family. Fortunately, we were pretty much on the same page with raising the kids. The answer is probably that I talk with her about it, but this can be very difficult. The other answer is to more with God about it, and I know I have to do more of that.” 40:25

How Can a Shy, Single Young Adult Man Find Friends?

“How can a shy young single man, in his mid to late 20’s get connected with other men? Where can he find godly friends? It seems like I’m the only Christian guy in my friend group, and I’m just starting in my journey as well. Most men, if not all, in my men’s ministry are much older, all married and have kids. I don’t feel connected with them, and many times, I feel like an outsider.” 43:48

How Do I Deal With Strong Opinions on Hot-Button Issues?

“Now that churches are reopening, a lot of guys are so passionately political, one way or the other: “If I have to wear a mask, then I’m not going.” Or, “If not everyone’s wearing masks, then I’m not going.” There’s so much political stuff going on right now and very strong, differing opinions on issues like COVID-19, wearing masks, racial injustice, and so much more. What advice do you have for Christian guys out there, interacting with one another? How do guys deal with some of these strong, political thoughts these days?” 48:57

How Can I Release My Anger and Accept When Bad Things Happen?

“I had a stroke at 48 years old, which was three years ago, and I was doing all the right things prior. I had lost 35 pounds prior to the stroke, and I’m still angry at God for allowing this to happen. Outwardly all seems fine. I’m back at my director level job. I’m driving, playing ice–hockey, but everything is different. It has really impacted my relationship with my wife and son. How can I release my anger and finally accept that God has allowed this to happen? 58:48

About
Kirk Giles
Kirk Giles is the co-lead pastor of Forward Church in Cambridge, ON. He was formerly the President of Promise Keepers Canada | Impactus. However, his most important roles as a man are husband to Shannon and father to Carter, Joshua, Sydney and Samuel. He is also the author of The Seasons of Fatherhood.
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Kirk Giles
Kirk Giles is the co-lead pastor of Forward Church in Cambridge, ON. He was formerly the President of Promise Keepers Canada | Impactus. However, his most important roles as a man are husband to Shannon and father to Carter, Joshua, Sydney and Samuel. He is also the author of The Seasons of Fatherhood.