Theme of the Week: Devoted
Bible Verse: “Awaken, north wind; come, south wind. Blow on my garden, and spread the fragrance of its spices. Let my love come to his garden and eat its choicest fruits.” Song of Solomon 4:16, CSB
Scripture Reading: Song of Songs 6:2-3
Every couple needs a code word! This is a word or phrase that lets your mate know you are interested in intimacy with him or her. Hey, this isn’t our idea, it’s God’s! In Song of Solomon, we see the bride flirting with her groom using metaphors. Read Song of Songs 6:2-3.
Song of Songs is written metaphorically to shelter it from young eyes. To protect the innocence of the next generation, only adults understood the double meaning of the text. For example, anytime the word garden or flowers (like the lilies in the verses above) are mentioned, it is a word picture for female sex organs. In these verses, the bride is inviting her husband to have “red-hot monogamy” with her.
Here are a couple of our favourite “code word” stories:
1. One clergy couple shared with us how their code word evolved. They were the parents of toddlers, and life was more than a little bit stressful! The husband’s sister, who was single, volunteered to watch the kids for an evening so her brother and sister-in-law could go on a date. Most of the date was spent talking through life issues as the couple sat on the riverbank and fed the ducks.
When they returned to the sisters-in-law’s to retrieve the children, she asked, “So how’d it go?”
Her brother said, “We just talked and fed the ducks.”
“Fed the ducks, huh?” She smiled, thinking it was his code word for enjoying intimacy with his wife.
The dad gathered the children and headed out to the car to meet his wife. After the kids were tucked into bed, he explained how his sister thought feeding the ducks was a code for sex. His wife grinned and replied, “So, want to go feed the ducks?” For years now, this couple has been happily “feeding the ducks.”
2. One couple decided that every time they made love, they would put a dollar in the bank to save toward their second honeymoon. Often, he’d walk in from work and say, “I’ve got a dollar!” She would respond, “I know how to spend it!” Then off they’d go to the bedroom. This ritual happened week after week for years. If a business meeting would turn boring, all she had to do to end the meeting was to slide a dollar bill across the table — business meeting over! Year after year, they traded dollar bills back-and-forth, enjoyed satisfying sexual intimacy, and watched the money add it up in the bank.
When their fiftieth wedding anniversary came around, they went to Hawaii for several weeks. They stayed in all the best places, ate at the nicest restaurants, and enjoy the most exciting activities. At the end of the trip, the daughter picked them up at the airport. As she tells the story, “At baggage claim, Daddy pulled out his wallet, took out a dollar, and said, ‘Mama, want to start saving for Cancun?’”
Got a dollar?
Prayer: Lord, help us be creative in flirting to keep our marriage sizzling and strong. Amen.
Excerpt from A Couple’s Journey with God
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