The Lie of: You Are Who You Raise

In Daily Devotional by Daniel Im

Theme of the Week: You Are What You Do: Lies About Work, Life, and Love

Bible Verse: “Children are indeed a heritage from the LORD, offspring, a reward.” Psalm 127:3

Scripture Reading: Psalm 127:1-5

This lie is dangerous because it deceives you into believing that parenting ought to be your all and everything. That your children should be the center of your universe.

Think about the last time you drove behind someone who had one of those “My child is an honors student” bumper stickers. Why do parents stick these on their car? Who does it benefit the most? The child who doesn’t drive? Or the parent who now has a way of signaling their own virtue as a model caregiver?

Do you see how deceptive this lie is? How subtle it can be? On the surface, this lie doesn’t seem to bad, since involvement in your child’s life is better than neglect. However, underneath the surface, this lie actually tricks you into believing that your self-worth is tied directly to the performance of your children. In other words, this lie that you are who you raise frauds you into believing that your children’s success is your success. And their failure is your failure.

At the root of this lie is pride. It’s the belief that you are the one who is ultimately in control over the destiny of your children. It’s the belief that you can shape and mold them into your image and likeness – that you have not only created them but can sustain them.

I hope you’re noticing the foolishness of living according to this lie and defining yourself based on your children – and the amount of unnecessary pressure that it puts on you and your children.


Excerpted with permission from You Are What You Do by Daniel Im. Copyright 2020, B&H Publishing Group.


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Daniel Im
Daniel Im is the Senior Associate Pastor of Beulah Alliance Church in Edmonton, AB. Daniel is a speaker and leader who has traveled to cities like New York, Vancouver, Los Angeles, Sydney, and Seoul to teach, consult, and coach. He co-hosts the New Churches Q&A Podcast as well as the IMbetween Podcast and is the author of You Are What You Do and No Silver Bullets.
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Daniel Im
Daniel Im is the Senior Associate Pastor of Beulah Alliance Church in Edmonton, AB. Daniel is a speaker and leader who has traveled to cities like New York, Vancouver, Los Angeles, Sydney, and Seoul to teach, consult, and coach. He co-hosts the New Churches Q&A Podcast as well as the IMbetween Podcast and is the author of You Are What You Do and No Silver Bullets.