Bible Passage: “For no one is cast off by the Lord forever. Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love.” (Lamentations 3:31-32 NIV)
Scripture Reading: Lamentations 3:31-38
Men are often transactionally based.
Do this, get that.
It makes sense; it’s easy and uncomplicated. In many of life’s circumstances, it’s a valid and even proper approach to interactions. Even biblically, God’s covenant with Israel contains blessings for obedience and curses for disobedience (see Deuteronomy 28).
In the business world, great practice.
Relationally?
Problematic.
That’s painting with a pretty broad brush, on both the characterization of men, and that transaction-based approaches are relationally unhealthy. Maybe you’re not transaction-prone in your relationships. Your kids’ behavior doesn’t impact how you respond to them. Co-workers’ success or failure to deliver doesn’t drive whether or not you deliver in return. Your kind words for your spouse are not tied to whether she asks about the day you told her would be difficult.
Great! You’re well ahead of me on the sanctification scale.
What about with God—or even more, from God? Do we have a transactional approach to our relationship with Him?
Today’s verses from Lamentations offer a couple of important ideas for men to consider:
1. Punishment is not permanent. Grief is real. Struggle and consequences are difficult, but they do not last forever. God does allow us to experience the ramifications of our choices, but that is not the lasting situation we face, even when we create the situation. And it’s not up to us to bring God back around to our side.
Why?
2. God is not relationally transactional. There are consequences for our actions, but His love for us is not based on our behavior. This is first shown in His choice of Israel; He frees them from slavery not because they were committed to Him, but because their cry reached His compassionate ears (Exodus 2). Transactional relationships are dictated by how someone else acts. The tone, tenor, and tranquility of a relationship are set by forces external to us. God shows us something different. Relationships are controlled by who He is. His character directs His approach to His relationship with us. Our relationship with Him is not predicated on what we do but on who He is.
As we look at the relationships in our lives, do they reflect what the other person does to and for us?
Or are they a reflection of the man God is making us into?
Do our relationships reveal the growing character of Christ’s self-sacrifice in our lives? Of course, there will be difficult times, fallout from poor choices, time and patience as consequences are endured, but does a relationship wait until someone acts for our benefit?
God holds us accountable, but His care for us is rooted in His compassion, not in our failures.
Prayer: God, sometimes it seems like You treat me transactionally. I probably treat You that way most of the time. To be honest, if You did, I would probably deserve much worse than my life is. Thank You that Your view of me is through Your character and not my behavior. Help me to be that same way with the people in my life. Amen.
Reflection: Are you going through a season of hardship? How does that impact your view of God? Do you have any transactional relationships in your life? How does today’s verse challenge that way of thinking?
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