We Are to Pursue

In Daily Devotional, Family, Husband by Jordan Harnum

Theme of the Week: The 7-Day Husband Challenge

Scripture Reading: Psalm 23:1-6

I’ll admit: when I first met my wife I was a little “over-the-top” in the romance department. I would have walked over 500 miles if it meant I would fall down at her door. In fact, I did wear through a couple pairs of shoes walking from my dorm to her house.

I wrote poems, songs, and even prepared scavenger hunts in the woods near her house. My friends still make fun of me for it 10 years later. It is safe to say, that I was hot in pursuit.

Lately, I’ve asked myself, “Do I still pursue my wife?”

It is not uncommon to read the importance of pursuing our wives in marriage books, both Christian and not. But where does this come from? And what does it mean to pursue our wives as married men? We put a ring on it, do I really need to keep pursuing?

For believers, our motivation to continue pursuing our wives is a part of loving our wives as Christ loves the Church. A motif in Scripture is God continually pursuing after His people even when they didn’t seem to have any desire for Him.

The Psalmist wrote that God’s goodness and mercy followed him wherever he went for all the rest of his days! That sounds like pursuit to me.

Pursuing your wife means to continue to woo her, and allure her – not in an immature way that desires her attention for your own sake, or in a desire to prove something to her. But rather, it means to express your love and desire for her out of the full assurance of God’s love for yourself.

Once you understand how deeply God loves and cares for you can love your wife similarly. When you grasp how he’s chosen and forgiven you, you can greater understand what it means to truly love our wives as Christ loves the Church – he doesn’t stop. He didn’t love us simply when he died on the cross, or the moment we were born again. He didn’t love us a year ago. He always loves us, and he always will.

One of our contributors Ryan Frederick wrote this:

A man in love is in constant pursuit. His every action is directed toward what – or whom – he loves most. If you watch a man’s pursuit, you’ll see what he really loves.

What does your pursuits say about who and what you love?

Challenge

The weekend is coming up. Think of a date idea, and decide to do it. Make it realistic, simple and meaningful. Invite your wife to do it with you and don’t drop the ball – you got this!

Conversation Prompt

Ask your wife: What would be the ideal date night for you? Is there anything you would like us to do together?


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Jordan Harnum
Jordan Harnum serves as a Content Marketing Associate for Impactus | Promise Keepers Canada. He lives in Burlington where he is involved in his local church. He is married to Rachel and together they have a daughter named Poppy Joy.
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Jordan Harnum
Jordan Harnum serves as a Content Marketing Associate for Impactus | Promise Keepers Canada. He lives in Burlington where he is involved in his local church. He is married to Rachel and together they have a daughter named Poppy Joy.