We Are Protectors

In Daily Devotional, Family, Husband by Jordan Harnum

Theme of the Week: The 7-Day Husband Challenge

Scripture Reading: Psalm 46:1; James 1:17

Have you ever taken a self-defense class? Man… they can make you feel invincible.

A few years ago, I joined Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. It was one of the best decisions I have ever made.

I became obsessed. I was going to practice 3-4 times a week, watching videos, and I even bought a T-Shirt that said “Jiu Jitsu VS Anybody”. I’ll admit, it was a bit much.

It’s safe to say in those early months, I felt unstoppable. I was ready to protect myself and my wife at any cost.

A year or so into training, I would put these new self-defense skills to the test when I was faced with an “intruder” in my own home.

In the middle of the night, I had gotten up to use the washroom, and on my dark walk back to the bedroom I abruptly collided with a person. This was my time to shine right? All those jiu-jitsu classes would finally be put to the test. Well, unfortunately, It did not go as I had often dreamed up.

I screamed in an extremely high pitch tone and ran in the opposite direction… and so did the intruder… who happened to be Rachel, my wife on her own walk to the washroom.

That’s right – I nearly put my own 5’2″ wife into a head lock in the middle of our small kitchen. Once our heart rates went below 120 bpm, we could not contain our laughter.

This got me thinking… why is it, when we think of protecting our wife it is often in this type of way?

If we are honest, sometimes we want to be the knight in shining armor who saves a damsel in distress.

What if protecting our wives is less about flexing our masculine muscles, but providing a trustworthy, stable, reliable environment for her to live and thrive? What if protecting our wife, means helping her feel safe emotionally, spiritually, financially?

Stay with me.

The greatest protection you can offer your wife is not by being tough but by being trustworthy. It’s not in one-time happenings, but every-day habits.

It’s not in one-time happenings, but every-day habits.

Psalm 46:1 says that God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. I love the idea of “ever-present”. God doesn’t go anywhere. You can count on him being there when you need him. He’s reliable. He’s steadfast.

James 1:17 tells us that God doesn’t change. How great it is, that we can live and rest confidentially knowing that God will not leave us nor forsake us.

Does your wife feel safe and secure?

  • Can she trust you to manage your finances well?
  • Can she trust you to stay true to your word?
  • Can she trust you to not forget the needs of the kids?
  • Can she trust you to not take her on a wild goose chase?
  • Can she trust you to manage your own relationship with God?

Challenge

The challenge today is this: Think of one way you can communicate your trustworthiness to your wife without using words.

Conversation Prompt

Here are some conversation prompts to begin a discussion around this topic:

  • “Do you feel safe to share your ideas, and emotions?”
  • “What do you worry most that I will forget?”

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Jordan Harnum
Jordan Harnum serves as a Content Marketing Associate for Impactus | Promise Keepers Canada. He lives in Burlington where he is involved in his local church. He is married to Rachel and together they have a daughter named Poppy Joy.
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Jordan Harnum
Jordan Harnum serves as a Content Marketing Associate for Impactus | Promise Keepers Canada. He lives in Burlington where he is involved in his local church. He is married to Rachel and together they have a daughter named Poppy Joy.